I’m Happy Being Curvy


There are always times when I think that people struggle with their appearance and how they are perceived by others. I can just look at a plate of gnocchi and the pounds jump right on my thighs. Some people can eat all day long and not gain a pound.  Well, what’s for them is for them and what’s for me is for me!!!!  It took me a long time but I have accepted that.  We have been brainwashed to think we must fit into a certain size to please others.  I have always been a “thick girl” as guys used to call me when I was in college.  Being “thick” meant I had curvy hips,  thick thighs and a lot of junk in my trunk. My favorite karaoke song to sing happens to be Baby Got Back.

I think the key here is finding clothes that compliment your body style. I don’t want my clothes so tight that it shows everything.   You have to leave something to the imagination!  I love maxi dresses and maxi shirts. Recently, I have started wearing dresses that are shorter, and still below the knee.  It was a bold move for me but I finally felt comfortable.  This also applies to bathing suits.  I used my lack of confidence for wearing a bathing suit not to take my children to the water parks or beaches.  I was still carrying baby weight and my kids are 13 and 11.  I wasn’t  hurting myself, my children were the ones that were suffering. When I realized that, I had to make small goals for myself to remain healthy for my children and that is what I did. We’ve been enjoying the beach ever since.

My accountability partner at work helped with my 30 day challenges that focused on abs, squats etc.  Being sleep deprived and teaching all day, I was determined to do each session in the evening.  I would get my mat and do my planks and start other ab work but would fall asleep on the floor.  So I have to find a plan B.  In the meantime,  I have learned to embrace my curves.  The other day  a woman stopped me and said that people pay for a butt like mine.  I think that was  a compliment.  I just said thank you and kept moving.

Life has taught me to enjoy every moment. To love myself and to make myself a priority.  It is important to teach  young girls to embrace and cherish their bodies.  Don’t get me wrong I am not against dieting, working out, and lifestyle changes. I don’t hate people who are thin.  When I see the committment and dedication people have towards getting in shape.  It inspires me.  My mindset is just not all the way 100% there yet.  But I am a work in progress and that is the first step.    It just saddens me when I see others ridiculed because of their size.  I am not embarrassed to say that my spanx has saved me on many occasions. But it is now time to get rid of the spanx!   I want to leave you with an excerpt from a poem by the late Maya Angelou, A Phenomenal Woman. This speaks to my heart.

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies. I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size. But when I start to tell them.  They think I’m telling lies. I say it’s in the reach of my arms, the span of my hips. The stride of my steps. The curl of my lips. I’m a woman. phenomenally, phenomenal Woman. That’s me.

Remember when you look in the mirror, you are amazing!



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