My daddy named me. I always loved my name. It wasn’t a popular name but I didn’t mind. Whenever I heard someone else with the name Brooke. I was always curious to see if they spelled it with an “e” at the end.
When I married Robert I accepted the name Copher. When we had children. We thought/fought about what we would name the children. I loved the name Noah. Robert loved the name Elijah. Harrison is a family name on Robert’s side of the family. I think that Harrison Noah Copher is a strong name for him. He hates it when I call him Harry.
When baby girl came along. Only Rob and my family knew we were having a girl. I always wanted my daughter to have a nickname. Sydney Gabrielle. Syd the kid! I couldn’t see her with another name.
Let’s fast forward to my divorce. Much of my divorce was a blur. I just wanted it over. I remember my attorney asking me if I was changing my name. I replied no and I really thought nothing of it.
Recently I was asked why I didn’t change my name back to Butler. I was told that I must still be in love with my ex because I still have his name. NO! I started thinking about my teaching experience and the single parents that still had their married names. I remember the first time I assumed the last name of a parent and she quickly corrected me.
I thought that by keeping Copher, it would make the transition easier for my kids. I am not holding on to my marriage. Just the name that blessed me with two miracles and made me a courageous woman today.
Should I change my name back to Brooke Butler? Was I wrong for not changing it in the first place? What would you do?
2 thoughts on “It’s All In The Name”
I think you were right to keep the name. It’s the same as your kids and that bond is much more important than the one with the guy who shared it with you…
Thanks for your comments. I never thought of it until I started dating and was asked why I never changed my name. I’m glad that I kept it for my kids.
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