Race, The Elephant In The Room


Before you get all excited. This blog isn’t about President Trump, the NFL, the anthem, police brutality or black lives matter.

Race is often the elephant in the room. I know some situations may be difficult. I am sure we have all been in situations that were uncomfortable. We have to have a dialogue about race. Whether we like it or not.

This blog deals with dating. I have shared my dating stories with all of you. Recently, I posted a picture of myself on social media with a new friend.


Immediately, I received messages from black males that I know. They were upset that I was with a white man. Other people wanted to know if I was changing my relationship status on Facebook!

First, I had to remind one man that his baby’s mama is white. So, he sure was the pot calling the kettle black.

Secondly, another black male said that when he see’s a black woman with a white man. He thinks that she is settling to be a white man’s whore.  This is something that he heard when he was younger and he just believed it.

Now this was getting serious. Where did all of this come from?


I have no problem with black men that date, and marry white women. The problem I have is that when a black woman decides to cross over to the other side as they say. She is seen as disrespecting black males.

That doesn’t make sense to me. So it is okay for black men to date outside of their race. But black women can’t do the same thing? People fall in love and race shouldn’t be a factor.  Do black males ever think about how black women feel?

Black women love our black males, we pray for them and stand by them.  But if you don’t want to date a black woman. You can’t tell her who she can and can’t date.

To the black males that refuse to date black women. I would say you should not believe the stereotypes of an angry black woman. After all, don’t you want society to stop labeling you as the angry black man?

This conversation did leave me with many questions. Some questions, I may never have the answers to. I guess we need a new version of Guess Who’s Coming To Dinner?

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