It was hard to do. I had to use a word that makes me feel uncomfortable. I had to tell someone No! And I had to tell them no more than once because they didn’t believe me the first time I said it. Saying no was so empowering. I felt like a three year old … More I Had To Say No
Therapy is often taboo in the black community. We go to church not therapists or at least that is what we were told when growing up. Seeing a therapist was a sign of weakness because you were supposed to take your burdens to The Lord in prayer, not to the man while lying on a … More That’s Why You Need Therapy
When I was younger I was the limbo champ. When I was younger I could drop it likes it hot. When they were asking for volunteers to sit on the floor or kneel for the staff picture day this week. I thought to myself not today Satan. If I go low, I’m not getting up. … More How Low Can You Go?
If things aren’t going the way you hoped. Maybe it’s because you are looking in the wrong direction. You’re trying to move forward but you’re too busy looking back at the sins, mistakes and drama from the past. I’m guilty of doing this too, so I’m not judging you. I’m trying to save you the … More You’re Going The Wrong Way
Those are the lyrics to a Tupac song but that’s how I felt leaving the farm Saturday night. I think Sydney knew I needed to be surrounded by family and she hung outside with us until almost midnight. My grandparents were blessed to live in this house for over fifty years. If you read my … More Things Will Never Be The Same
I struggle with blogging lately because my draft posts are like mini novels and then I realize, Ain’t nobody got time for that. As I enjoy a pedicure I’m typing this quick blog! For those that think I should be relaxing. I’m the only one here and blogging relaxes me. Besides I can’t decide on … More Stop Trying So Hard!
I’ll be happy when I lose ten more pounds. I’ll be happy when I find a step daddy for my kids. I’ll be happy when I write another book. I’ll be happy when I can learn to say no. I’ll be happy when we take a vacation. I’ll be happy when….. This past week taught … More I’ll Be Happy When
I never realized the importance of an anchor. An anchor is used to moor the vessel to the sea bottom. An anchor leg of a relay is the fastest runner who is able to make up time in the race and finish strong. I think about the weight on my shoulders and how I have … More My Future
I have to admit I’m glad that I was damaged in the past. In some ways maybe parts of me are still damaged. When you’ve been damaged and hit rock bottom you have a humbling experience that will change your mindset and path in life. Every day bullshit doesn’t affect you the same way that … More Damaged People
Enough with keeping up with the Jones’s or the Kardashian’s. I’m trying to keep up with me, myself and I. If I learned anything this week it’s that what’s for me is for me and God’s timing isn’t my timing. I stopped worrying about what other people were doing and focused on keeping my own … More Time To Pull The Weeds